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By Ninjak_XO Fri-15-Feb-2019 12:00:21

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I'm taking a break from life. Yesterday, my girlfriend broke up with me because she thinks she's not giving me what I want. I'm fucking devastated, as I told her that I couldn't be happier, but she just thinks she's being unfair and I need to find someone that can give more than her. I never imagined a future with any previous girlfriend, but I did with her. She was going to be my life.  I don't really know what to do anymore, I've barely slept, taking an easy way out seems all too easy at the moment. I feel like my life has been ripped away from me. So I've decided that I'm taking a break from most things. I wouldn't do 4CW any justice right now. And any board posts would be super depressing because literally everything can go and get fucked right now.

But if anyone has any tips on coping, I would be greatly appreciative.


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By rhys Fri-15-Feb-2019 13:03:25

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That sounds like a very vague reason to break up with you. Almost like there’s more to it than that. I’m sorry to hear about it dude. If there’s nothing you can do to solve it, then that sucks.

I will say this: I had my son with my ex and when she broke up with me, I could not get over it. Took me like two years. But I did get over it. Now I just can’t believe it took me so long.

Time heals everything and retrospect will show you things aren’t as bad as you think, though I know you don’t want to hear that right now.

You do you, dude. Life > 4CW. Jump back in anytime you want. Don’t do anything stupid. No matter how much you think this is the end of the world, it’s really not.

Maybe you’ll get back together. Maybe you won’t. But you’ll be alright. Keep yourself busy, don’t wallow in depression and do things you enjoy. Best things you can do.


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By Gorgrim Fri-15-Feb-2019 17:46:48

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Oh dude, I'm so sorry for you. Just take it a day at a time. Things look bad, but I'm sure it'l get better. As Rhys said, time heals, so give it time. We'll be here for you buddy!


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By Pilgrim Paige Fri-15-Feb-2019 18:29:31

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I went through a bad breakup in 2016—similarly abrupt ending to it and was blindsided. I felt many of the same things you've described in your post.

I'm gonna tackle this subject by elaborating on this part of Rhys' reply:

rhys wrote

Keep yourself busy, don’t wallow in depression and do things you enjoy. Best things you can do.

This—even if, in your current state, they don't seem to bring joy, or be worth even trying to do. Even when it—whatever your *it* is, anything positive—feels like the hardest thing in the world to do. I've had enough depressive episodes to know that often, the worst place to keep yourself is inside your own head. It's hard as hell to make yourself *do* rather than think/feel when things are really heavy. But it can mark the difference between falling in deeper and neutralizing the threat thereof. It can be anything you enjoy or otherwise would normally do and gain something positive from. One time recently, I managed to do the laundry. That's all—just the laundry. I didn't do much of anything else that day; I was really, really low. But I knew that if I managed to do just *that* much, the day hadn't been a waste. In a depressed mode, thinking can be destructive. It tears you down. Sure, one needs to process what's happened—but when you're feeling really low, the mind distorts everything. When you see yourself getting lost in a fog, the first thing you do is look for a light. That's where action—even something "small"—is so important to take. That's the constructive side of it.

Try not to isolate yourself too much, either, if you can help it. Reaching out is always a good thing. You shared with us here—that's an example of positive action in motion right there. Well done. 🙂


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By LHeat87 Sat-16-Feb-2019 03:24:30

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Man I’m so sorry to hear that. That sucks.
That sucks hard. I dunno how old you are. But sweet Jesus it ain’t worth it. You haven’t experience enough of life. Stay strong, be around friends and family, and YES! Stay occupied!

Her idea of “she’s not giving you what you want” is ridiculous. I’ve never heard that one before. At the very least she’s trying to be nice about some other crap she’s got going on in her head. Kind of made me angry lol and I don’t even know you! Just silly!

Nothing. And I mean NOTHING. Is worth ending your life. No woman on earth! No human being is worth it. Get those dark thoughts out of your head. Easier said then done, I know. Which is why you need to do everything everyone is telling you. Please man. Think about the devastation you’d cause you friends and family. IT IS NOT WORTH IT!!!!!!

Your 4CW family is here for you!!!!


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By Gorgrim Sat-16-Feb-2019 12:10:44

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LHeat87 wrote

Her idea of “she’s not giving you what you want” is ridiculous. I’ve never heard that one before. At the very least she’s trying to be nice about some other crap she’s got going on in her head. Kind of made me angry lol and I don’t even know you! Just silly!

Actually, it's not as silly as you might think. My then GF, now Wife tried the same thing on me. In my case, I didn't let her leave, but it wasn't an easy situation. My wife was suffering a lot with her depression at the time though, so it may be something thats going on with her.

Hopefully, she'll come to her senses sooner rather than later and you can at least talk things out and see whats going on. Honesty will be important, but you've also got to try and get her to tell you why. I really hope you get that chance to talk openly. Good luck buddy, we're all thinking of you.


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By LHeat87 Sat-16-Feb-2019 13:07:05

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Maybe you’re right. In my experience, it’s cowardly and not being able to actually admit the real problem, but every situation is different. I shalln’t respond to what I don’t understand.


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By ImperialStingmon Sat-16-Feb-2019 20:37:17

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My now ex left me on Independence Day last year. She had already moved to PA and has my son up there with her. It sucked then, hard, and it sucked for a long time, and it still sucks, primarily because there are times when she can be difficult, to put it nicely. Point being it is going to suck for a very long time. The more you do things though and don't think about it, the less it will suck in total.

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By benjawi Sat-16-Feb-2019 21:45:39

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Sucks dude. You'll get through it though. I read this earlier and it's important for everyone.

"Suicide doesn’t end the pain, it just shares it around"

Taking the easy way out might end your pain, but all you'd be doing is passing it on to other people. Your parents, other family, friends, etc...


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By Ninjak_XO Sun-17-Feb-2019 09:16:24

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Gorgrim wrote
LHeat87 wrote

Her idea of “she’s not giving you what you want” is ridiculous. I’ve never heard that one before. At the very least she’s trying to be nice about some other crap she’s got going on in her head. Kind of made me angry lol and I don’t even know you! Just silly!

Actually, it's not as silly as you might think. My then GF, now Wife tried the same thing on me. In my case, I didn't let her leave, but it wasn't an easy situation. My wife was suffering a lot with her depression at the time though, so it may be something thats going on with her.

Hopefully, she'll come to her senses sooner rather than later and you can at least talk things out and see whats going on. Honesty will be important, but you've also got to try and get her to tell you why. I really hope you get that chance to talk openly. Good luck buddy, we're all thinking of you.

She's been struggling recently as she has the implant and she's been bleeding for 2 months straight. Totally ruined her sex drive and I know that bleeding like that has been affecting her. She had it out this week and a day later I get this out of the blue. So I'm really hoping it's to do this this and when her body calms down we can work things out. That's my hope anyway. I'm more upset about this than when my 5 year relationship with my ex ended. And I just want to know how she's doing and hug her even though this whole thing feels like it is killing me.

Thanks for the support people.


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By benjawi Wed-20-Feb-2019 18:36:33

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Hope you don't mind, but I've sent you an email using the address you signed up with just to check in. Hope you're doing okay buddy.